Happiness , Do We Own It Or Is Someone Else Responsible For It ?

Hello everyone , happy Tuesday !! It's been a very warm day in England , and even with all the windows open and a draft through the house , it's still warm . I'm not complaining dressed in a nice cool sundress ,my hair tied up in a top knot , nothing could stop me from enjoying the heat !
The news on telly is always so depressing , people getting killed , accidents on roller-coasters ,  terrorists , wars , guns . People are even getting afraid to travel  . A friend of mine asked me just today , are you planning on going somewhere for the summer ? I have always loved travelling and have been to so many places around the world . Somehow now I have lost all my desire to travel . I just want to be in my little village , safe and peaceful for the rest of my life , so no desire to travel anymore ! It's sad , but in this unsafe world we live in , better stay put where you feel safe .. that's my policy , for now !
But that's not the  topic of this blog , I just wanted to write about relationships ! Today the news broke that Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck have announced they are going to divorce after 10 years together and 3 children . In the old days people would have just stayed together , because they had children . Nowadays it's not a factor . Children just have to get used to the fact Mum & Dad are not a couple . Yes I was very shocked they are splitting up .  I thought they had a rock solid marriage ,just because they had 3 kids .Hey I was wrong .. but things are not all they seem and celebrity or not ,they are just as human as us common people with our petty money .
Why can't people stay together anymore for the children ? Why do they feel it's  okay to split up ? I have often thought about that . It's because we are less tolerating of anyone else , even if they are our partner . It's acceptable nowadays to be a single mother . Women like to be independent and men somehow forget this in their life that revolves mostly around themselves . They think the woman has got to listen to them , do as they ask , because somehow a woman can't be happy without a man in her life . When a woman is a mother ,kids become their priority and their first thought . If the husband does not fall into that thought , then ofcourse cracks are going to appear . No matter how much men profess to care about their kids , it doesn't strike me as true , because more often than not the woman is left shouldering the responsibility of the kids , when a marriage breaks down . Even when a man  does sometimes take on half the care , more often than not he will put his work responsibilities first before his children ,  often leaving them in the care of a babysitter , relatives etc ..
I am a single Mum with three kids , I often have men sending me friend requests on social networks . They always spin the same thing , they are looking for a nice woman to get to know better and they want to chat , chat , chat ... But I am not looking for a nice man to get know , I tell them . I am very happy in my life , I don't have to switch tv channels to please anyone  , I eat the food I want , I do things when I want . I only need a man who is rich who will be able to provide me with more than I have now  , so I say if you are not rich sorry you can get lost , I am not interested . Women make sacrifices if they know it will pay off in the long term . Like all those marriages in the olden days when wives stayed together with their men because the husbands worked and payed the bills , so the women put up with any shit  for the sake of the kids and having a roof over their heads . Yes I would put up with shit , if a man was taking care of all  my bills and providing for me , yes I would even look the other way if they had another women . It's hard times we live in and it's not easy being a single mother . But No I have no time to chat and pretend I'm looking out for happiness with some man who's poor and can't take care of me and my kids .  Then No I'm very happy taking care of my kids and looking after myself . Happiness comes from within . If you are not happy with yourself , No man can make you happy .
With that I end here . Hope you enjoyed reading this . Start with doing things to make yourself happy , even if it means it's not what others expect from you . All women are capable of being happy without some other person . Some other human can enhance your happiness but not supply it (happiness ) .

Keep smiling and have an awesome day !

Love & Peace

Cocktail Orange / Vodka Splash ..Your Summer Drink !!

Summer Cocktail with some alcohol to liven up your evening ?

We all love a nice relaxing drink at the end of the day . It just happens that we always have orange juice , and some vodka lying somewhere in the kitchen . Well here's a nice little summer cocktail with those two ingredients combined with something  more , and hey presto a delicious summer cocktail .

The Cocktail Orange Vodka Splash !

2 oz . Citroen Vodka ( or just plain Vodka )
1 oz. Cointreau
1 splash of fresh lime juice
1 nice big splash of Orange juice
Sugar for garnish
Orange slice for garnish

Pour all the ingredients over ice in a shaker or a large glass and shake vigorously . Rim a glass with sugar and serve on the rocks . Garnish with an orange slice !

Enjoy your drink and have  a lovely evening . Keep smiling xoxo

Sexy Summer Colours To Make Your Toenails Pop !!!

Happy Sunday , England is beginning to swelter in the heat . This weekend temperatures reached some nice highs and the coming few days are only just going to get hotter with the highs of 32 / 33 degree Celsius at the peak !
All this hot weather means our boots and pumps are all going to be stored away and out will come our flip flops , sandals and open toed shoes . So definitely time to smarten up those feet and get them looking as sexy as sin !!
Make your toenails pop this summer with vibrant nail polishes !! Just feels right for summer and we are going to enjoy this summer , without any complaints of the heat !!
So POP those toenails with Oranges , Yellows , Blues , Greens and any vibrant shade you love  . I've used some stunning colours  from Essence , H&M's and Primark's P.S. Range all colours available in the high street stores in Europe and England .

Having A Clear Out ? ... How To Get Some Cash For It !!

We all need a clear out , at least twice a year or else our houses are going to be loaded with so much unnecessary stuff we are going to look like poster girls for " Hoarders " .
Instead of throwing away our stuff , we should , being savvy people that we are try to use them to make money for ourselves ! We could always do with a couple of more quids in our lives :)
I have some useful tips to help you get started with getting cash out of your throwaways !

Where you should go to sell :
There are great fixed price sites , which you must know about , like Gumtree and Amazon . For auction sites there is E-bay . The benefit is how easy it is to use it . It takes less than a minute to list an item . Before you start listing sell a few cheap items to get good feedback ratings . There is also E-bid which is a smaller site , which has cheaper fees but you may get fewer bids because it's not as popular as E-bay with fewer users .

Top Tips for Listings :
The Title is very important . include as much detail  in it as possible . Most important is to learn the jargon  BNWT - standsfor Brand New With Tags.
BNWOT - Brand New WithOut Tags  ,  BNIB - Brand New In Box

Getting the Right Price : Always put a reserve at the lowest price you want to sell for , but start at .99p as it will get people interested .

Always remember buyers shop at the weekends , so put ads up then . Sunday evenings are the best time for ending auctions . You could spark a bidding frenzy !!

Postage : Many people get caught out by not adding enough postage to their listing , however if your price is too high , buyers would not be interested . Use royalmail.com/price-finder to find the correct amount . When you send the item , always get proof of purchase and pay more for recorded delivery , if it's valuable .

Don't stay away from auction sites , because of security concerns . PayPal is pretty safe ,  and E-bays preferred method of payment . It is free to set up a paypal account and easy to check what is coming and going - especially id you have a smart phone app .  It also offers protection if something ever goes wrong , or an item never arrives . Handy if you ever have a dispute with a buyer !

Last you could always pop into Cash Converters on your local high street and get get some cash for your throwaway !

Okay hope you found these tips helpful . Have an awesome day and keep smiling xoxo

Love & Peace

Delicious White Chocolate Truffles .. I Love Them :)

We all love chocolate and I am no exception !! Well I actually like it alot more now than when I was very young . I think the reason being I am alot more active now than before and I need all the chocolate boost I can get .  With kids and work and always thinking of exercise and fitness , I need the chocolate to boost my concentration , for that hype in energy levels and not forgetting just to indulge the sweet tooth .
We all can enjoy chocolate , a couple of times in the week , without going overboard and eating too much !!
I want to share my delicious chocolate truffle recipe with you all . It is so simple to prepare and absolutely mouth watering to eat . Give it a shot and make it this weekend .

Ingredients

200 gms white chocolate ( broken into little pieces )
60 ml of cream
1/2 teaspoon of vanilla extract
1 tablespoon butter
25 gms desiccated coconut

For the coating
75 gms desiccated coconut

Melt the chocolate and cream in a heat proof bowl , over a pan of simmering ( not boiling ) water . Add the butter and continue stirring until smooth . Remove from the heat and stir in the vanilla extract and coconut . Put into a bowl , and cover and chill for about 2 hours until firm enough to roll into balls . Roll the mixture into about 20 small balls and toss or roll in the coconut  Chill before serving . They are so appetizing after a nice hot Indian meal . Enjoy :)

Father's Day ... Glad these Movie Dads Are Not Our Own !!

Hi Everyone , Good Morning from a still cold chilly England . Waiting for the next few days which promises to bring better weather and lots more sunshine . I hope you all had a lovely Father's Day and honoured your Dad's well if he was well deserving ! We all have Dad's who have their shortcomings and most of the time we try to overlook their faults and still think highly of them even though they might tend to forget us and our existence !!
I have made a list of Movie Dad's who are down right terrible , so we can be thankful that they are just movie imagination and not our real life role models .  With these examples of Dads we can still smile at our own dad's error's of judgement , quirky foolishness and still feel blessed to have the choice God gave us  .
The first Dad on the list and Better her dad than ours is The King of Arendelle " Frozen " he managed to give his daughter a lifetime of issues in a mere five minutes of screen time !!
Jack Torrance in " The Shining ", he was creepy remember him telling his son "we'll have the whole hotel to ourselves , it'll be fun " uugghhh ..
Thanos in " Guardians of the Galaxy " he clearly missed the parenting guides about not turning your kids into bionic weapons !!
John Milton in  " Devil's Advocate " It's hard to get worse than having a father who literally is the Devil  !!
Remember Mr Wormwood in "Matilda " ?  Well it is one of my favourite movies .. but what more can I say about him than he was such a bully !!
Then there's Bill from " Kill Bill : Vol 2 " serious question who let that guy adopt the child of the woman he tried to murder ?
Now there is Darth Vader from "Star Wars " pro tip dads , if you are ever in a conundrum , just ask yourself " What would Darth Vader do ? "and then do the exact opposite , because he's the worst :)
Okay we can't forget Lester Burnham from  " American Beauty " It's such a toss up which one is worse .. the one with the creepy sexual fixation on his teenage daughter's best friend  or ...
Colonel Fitts  also "  American Beauty " the violent , psychotic , homophobic with a collection of Nazi dishware !!
Last but not least is Vernon Dursley from " Harry Potter " not only was Vernon an abusive monster to poor Harry , but he didn't exactly  do a bang up , spot on job with his own biological child either !!

Yes these awful movie Dads really make us happy they are just fictional  and we have normal just stubborn dads in our own life :))

Have a wonderful day and hope you enjoyed reading this ... Keep smiling . Lots of love xoxo

Little Black Dress #OOTD 21/6/15

Busy day today , it might have been Sunday but we kept busy , met up with some friends . Dropped by Frankie & Bennie's and that is always a treat :)

So This was my Sunday outfit , a No fuss , little black dress , always suitable for any occasion with some black stockings . the weather is still chilly  and I'm not ready to bare my legs . Waiting on Summer.... which is taking so long to arrive . yes today was the Summer Solstice ! The official first day of Summer , the longest day of the year and not forgetting Prince William's Birthday and last but not least it was also Father's Day .
If you are fortunate to have a wonderful father give thanks and don't forget to tell him how great he is and how fortunate , you feel to have in in your life .
Back to my outfit , black boots and a pink purse with a chain strap . The shoes are from Dolcis from  the Netherlands . The dress is at least three years old bought at a little boutique in Paris . And the purse is from an online store Etsy . Hope your weekend was awesome . Keep smiling xxx