Spanking !! Is It Acceptable ???

In the past few days , the topic among most people has been " Is it okay to spank your Child ? " well , it was not plucked out of thin air ,  for people to discuss . It was Pope Francis , who sparked all this discussion when he , happened to say "It's okay to spank your child ,if they have been naughty , never on the face , but on the bottom or the legs " It has been a shock for some people , that our holy father brought up this subject !  Some people might now think , it's okay to spank because Pope Francis condones this behaviour ! We have moved so far forward , that it is , no more acceptable to spank a child . Yet , if you are a certain age ,lol .. it would have been completely normal to feel the fury of a parent and get spanked . But that , no more can  be permitted . I speak from experience , my mother , regularly not only spanked me , but choose to beat me up . Repeatedly I informed her , I did not like it , but she dished out this punishment to me . Okay let me just say , it only reinforces a child to become very stubborn and give backchat , so no purpose served !
When a person chooses to use a spank to express displeasure , at whatever the child has done , that in actual facts has nothing to do , with the child's behaviour and trying to discipline them. It has everything to do with the person who has raised their hand . It is their own frustrations , that unleashes the beast - anger ! They are not in control of themselves ( the parent ), and are frustrated ,angry and do not know how to express themselves . If you don't have patience , then any little thing can set you off . Generally it is the mental state of anyone getting angry , that is the bigger problem than the child .
Just to say, why I was beat , because I was not a naughty child !!  It was mostly because I refused to eat my food all up ! Yes I wasted alot , but that is me till today .  I don't overeat ,and children often , know  how much , they need and will always eat , when they are hungry ! Oh yes another reason , was doing bad at maths in school , caused my mother's fury , but of course I always said I had no ambitions of becoming a mathematician ! I am quite happy at being quick with money and calculations , because that's all I need in everyday life ,nobody can cheat me , lol .. No I still can't figure out logarithms ,  geometry still foxes me but heyho I'm not about to boost about any maths skills , I'd leave that , to the girl , who aced Maths  at school ! Where is she today , I wonder ?  Probably cooking for her kids and being a Mum and not proving her Maths skills , because I bet it doesn't make any difference to her kids . Kids don't care how clever their parents are,  because kids are always embarrassed by their parents and tend to think they know more anyways .
On the other hand , a child is very forgiving of their parents ,  that is why parents think it's easy to smack a child . They have unconditional love for the people who brought them into this world . Yes I love my mother , more than anything on this earth and she has ,apologised to me many times , in the years before she died , because I never let her forget , the spanks , I reminded her very often . Yes , I am a tough cookie , lol ..must have been those spanks ;)
As a mother myself , I know she was probably just frustrated with her life , she was young and had no income , she was a housewife so dependent on my father for every penny , had to ask for anything she needed , which is not a nice situation to be in !! I completely understand and forgive her from every corner of my heart .
I am very happy with my life , have no frustrations , so I am very tolarant and I never tend , to get annoyed with my children . Hence they are very good children .  The best thing to do when people feel they are losing control , is to take themselves ,out of the situation and not pay attention to any naughtiness . Inform your child , I know what your doing , and I'm going to ignore you and when you need something don't come to me , till you have apologised and tided up , if they are making a mess or rectified any of the bad behaviour . Ignoring hurts more than shouting , yelling and hitting which make's you look like a complete retard !
Love your children , don't put pressure on them to live up to your expectations , which will only frustrate you . Let your children be themselves and express themselves in their own manner . every child is different and has different capabilities .But every child is loving , good hearted , kind and their aim is always to please their parents , if you let them know everyday , how proud they make you !
Lock the word spanking away in a cupboard , throw the key away and forget that word exists . It has no use in todays society raising good children . The war should be over , give peace and love a chance !
Have a wonderful Sunday , and be the best parent you can be because NOW is your Chance !
Keep smiling !!

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